Love of the Beloved in the World

How does love of the beloved impact one’s presence in the world? What does love of the beloved inspire?

The energetic presence that awakens as love for a partner or spouse expands can be a useful tool to deepen all our relationships, even with persons as yet unmet.

We often think of all relationships as distinctly separate when, in actuality, we are simply making a clear set of choices about how we will relate to a given person often based on the role of that person in our lives. What if we feel into the love we share with a beloved and test its power on a friend, a co-worker or, perhaps, even a stranger? Doesn’t it just require momentary hesitation, a chance to drop the veil of perceived separation we feel for another? In that moment, the voice of love that has its origin in the same place in each of us and has its expression with our beloved can rise kindly, clearly, lovingly to create a new dynamic.

When that which you inspire awakens in me

our shared well full, molecules clinging

delicately to each other

as liquid love over a

tipped edge, I tap your strength,

a dip, a ladle

that I might share

courage not

mine as

a

drop,

a drop

placed in the

dry well of a

heart not yet full, but

longing for that which fills,

placed with the love you lent, the

nourishment that feeds us both and

ignites love’s soulful fire, awake now

in our lives’ tiny and wondrous beauties.

Happy couple in love making heart shape over precipice at sunset.

Can our courage be extended more broadly to alter the dynamic of a meeting, a conference? Can it influence important matters of public discourse? Can it be an expression of equanimity between people of different races, cultures, lifestyles? In each of us that love has only one origin – and is instantly accessible.

How might it feel to receive an unsolicited loving response from another? Do we not already revere those who speak the language of love to us? Can we each find it in ourselves to do just that?

In alert hesitation, how might I influence a relationship through love?

Use your voice.

Others Literally Live in Us, and We Live in Them

Can we yield to the quiet impulse to extend our very best selves knowing others will live it?

What traits, behaviors or ideas present in us do we notice as having originated in others? How do we carry those into the world to influence others? With awareness? With care?

20180401_120501.jpgIf I even loosely examine these questions, I recognize that parts of my speech, including innocuous things like colloquialisms, my attitudes, and my formulated opinions had their origins in family, friend or business relationships. Others literally live in me. In fact, we are vehicles for one another.

Naturally, as parents we have the ability to profoundly impact how our children see the world, how they form and maintain relationships and how they treat others. It’s a weighty responsibility. It is no less true and no less consequential in our adult relationships.

I practice what I term alert hesitation when speaking with others. I create space for a response that comes through me from a place other than a quick mind. It allows for what my spiritual teacher calls “knowledge born of direct experience.” It, in no way, impairs critical thinking or the ability to challenge another’s view as a point of discussion.

Speech is malleable, and each conversation is an opportunity to practice. Alert hesitation allows speech to flow into language, while perhaps even when making a vigorous argumentative point, that isn’t demeaning or deleterious. Sometimes, moments of alert hesitation generate space for unexpected responses that are kind, humility-filled and have depth.

Is what I have to say the part of me that I wish to live in someone else?